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Wedding Traditions

Yes you're just thinking about your stag weekend but increasingly, as the wedding approaches, you'll start to think about the traditions surrounding modern weddings and where they came from. Here are some pointers.

Old, new, borrowed, blue

Something old should be an item of sentiment from your family history i.e., a piece of jewellery, symbolising your family's past.

Something new should be a new item i.e., something you are wearing, symbolising wealth and good fortune

Something borrowed could be something sentimental from a close member of your family or a good friend to reassure you that they are there for you

Something blue is often incorporated in the garter or could be a piece of ribbon pinned in your dress somewhere, and is to symbolise loyalty and faithfulness

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Who Pays

Dowry, donation or don't bother?

Ye old times
In times of old it was an inherited custom for the father of the bride to take on the dowry tradition, showing the bride's family were honoured that the future groom would take on their daughter as his wife, and thereby rewarding him for doing so. Although a positively antiquated idea nowadays, it still traditionally holds up that the bride's father pays for the whole event. However, times have changed significantly enough to realise what a huge burden that is and that just maybe the future husband wants to marry his lovely lady for reasons related to the heart and not the pocket. This may be one of the reasons why more couples are paying for the wedding themselves.

Finance from father?
Money isn't the only reason couples have decided to go it alone. For some parents, along with controlling the purse strings comes an automatic right to take control of the proceedings. This can make for a very tricky situation. How do you tell someone who is paying for a lot of expensive stuff that you want them to pay for it but, YOU, want to choose it. If you can afford it the best solution is to pay for it yourself, as many couples have, thereby ensuring you have complete control. However if your parents insist that they want to pay, and you want them to, it would be a good idea to sit down and let them know who is boss. If you do decide to let them pay you will also need to discuss budgets with them. Your idea of a wedding budget may differ greatly from theirs so it is important to establish this early on.

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Stags Know Their Wedding Etiquette

Wedding Etiquette and Special Duties

This is what traditionally happened although the margins between the the duties has blurred over recent years

The Bride

The bride selects the type of service, the type of dress, the choice of bridesmaids and bridesmaid attire. Also the cake is usually chosen by the Bride.

The Bridegroom

He selects the bestman and ushers, buys the ring and pays the church fees.

He can also buy presents for the bridesmaids, best man and ushers as a gesture of gratitude for their help.

He buys flowers for the Bride, her mother, his mother, bridesmaids, button holes

He arranges and pays for the transport for himself and the best man and the bride and himself after the wedding

The Chief Bridesmaid            

Assists the Bride to dress, holds the bouquet during the ceremony and organises the other bridesmaids.

The Brides Father            

He gives the bride away

He receives the guests at the reception

He pays for the wedding dress, bridemaid's dresses and cars (except the bridegrooms)

The Brides Mother         

She is traditionally in charge of all proceedings

She decides on the guest list together with the Bridegroom's mother and the venue for the reception

She handles all catering arrangments and ensures the wedding cake is ready.

She also greets the guests at the reception

How times change. It is now the Bride that carries out the majority of the duties outlines above with the Groom diping in and out when not organisiong his stag weeeknd(s). For more information on stag weekends visit our affiliated site                                                                                                                                                 

Ideas for Stags

It's that time of year again - If you haven't forgotten (which for your sake I hope you haven't.) Yes it's Valentine's Day again. That nightmare for many men that comes around once a year. You don't want to spend too much but just enough to show you've made an effort.

Well thanks to those good people at Tesco your card needs are met.


Stag Weekend People

Who's Famous Footsteps Will You be Following on Your Stag Weekend in Neath - Yes Neath!

Richard Burton - Actor, thespian, Mr Elizabeth Taylor (twice). Hellraiser and true Welsh legend. Born and bred in Pontrhydyfen. Once asked, when at the height of his fame, who, if he had a choice, he would choose to have a drink with. His answer - a Welsh miner.


Ray Milland - Oscar winning actor of the 1940's and 50's. Won an Oscar for Lost Weekend in 1945. His real name was Reg Jones (that's why he changed it). My grandmother's claim to fame was she once danced with Reg before he was famous. Visit

Tony Lewis - Cricketer, Engalnd Captain and Championship winning Glamorgan team. BBC TV cricket commenator. Born in Neath and attended Neath Grammer School. Visit

Max Boyce - How do you describe Max - singer, comedian, story teller, Wales' biggest rugby fan, owner of the biggest leek in Wales. Visit

Katharine Jenkins - The former school teacher from Neath who signed the biggest deal in classical recording history and became the fastest-selling female opera singer since Maria Callas.  Visit

Bonnie Tyler - The wonderful singer with the gravelly voice. Still lives in the area. Visit

Stag Weekend

Who's Footsteps will You be Treading in When on Your Stag Weekend in Swansea?

Dylan Thomas - The bard himself was born and bred in Swansea. Many of the stories, poems etc are set in and around the City. Visit

Catherine Zeta Jones - Mrs Douglas herself was born in Swansea. Her family still live in the City. Ms. Jones and family are regular visitors to the City and are currently in the process of building a new home in the City. Visit

Sir Harry Secombe - One of the Goons along with Spike Milligan, Peter Sellers and Michael Bentine. Visit

John Charles - One of the best football players to be produced not only in Wales but in the Europe. A giant amongst his peers and still revered to this day in Turin following his time with Juventus. Visit

Tracey Edwards - Tracey stormed to fame when she brought 'Maiden' home with an all female crew in the 1991 Whitbread Round the World Race. This is the inside story on her early struggles and an amazing career in top level sailing. Visit,,8306-753522,00.html

Stag/Wedding Speech Ideas 2

More material for those stag/wedding speeches

New words for 2005  Work-place vocabulary
> TESTICULATING - Waving your arms around and talking b*llocks.
> BLAMESTORMING - Sitting around in a group, discussing why a deadline
> was missed or a project failed, and who was responsible.
> SEAGULL MANAGER - A manager who flies in, makes a lot of noise, craps
> on everything, and then leaves.
> ASSMOSIS - The process by which people seem to absorb success and
> advancement by sucking up to the boss rather than working hard.
> SALMON DAY - The experience of spending an entire day swimming
> upstream only to get screwed and die.
> CUBE FARM - An office filled with cubicles.
> PRAIRIE DOGGING - When someone yells or drops something loudly in a cube
> farm, and people's heads pop up over the walls to see that's going   on.
> (This also applies to applause from a promotion because there may be
> cake.)
> MOUSE POTATO - The on-line, wired generation's answer to the couch
> potato.
> SITCOMs - Single Income, Two Children, Oppressive Mortgage. What
> yuppies turn into when they have children and one of them stops
> working to stay home with the kids or start a "home business".
> STRESS PUPPY - A person who seems to thrive on being stressed out and
> whiny.
> PERCUSSIVE MAINTENANCE - The fine art of whacking the cr*p out of an
> electronic device to get it to work again.
> ADMINISPHERE - The rarefied organisational layers beginning just above
> rank and file. Decisions that fall from the "adminisphere" are   often
> profoundly inappropriate or irrelevant to the problems they were
> designed to solve. This is often affiliated with the dreaded
> "administrivia" needless  paperwork and processes.
> 404 - Someone who's clueless. From the World Wide Web error message
> "404 Not Found," meaning that the requested document could not be
> located.
> OHNOSECOND - That minuscule fraction of time in which you realise that
> you've just made a BIG mistake (e. g. you've hit 'reply all')

Stag Weekend Cardiff

Who's footsteps are you following in on your stag night in Cardiff?

1. Dame Shirley Bassey
2. Charlotte Church - still lives in the City
3. Ivor Novello - Actor, songwriter, filmmaker. The Ivor Novello Award for outstanding contributions to British popular Music is still awarded today.
4. Tessie O'Shea - Ask your grandparents. Became one of Britain's best loved musical stars as Two Ton Tessie and went on to find fame on Broadway.
5. James Callaghan - Ex-Prime Minister
6. Roald Dahl - Born in Llandaff in 1916
7. Lord Tonypandy - George Thomas was speaker of the House of Commons between 1976-1983.
8. Bleddyn Williams - One of eight brothers who played for Cardiff RFC. he captained Cardiff and Wales to victories over the All Blacks in 1953 and was also a British lion. Regarded as many as the greatest Welsh Centre of all time.

Stag Weekend Cardiff

Reasons Why Cardiff is Great for Stag Weekend

1. Millennium Stadium

Completed in 1999 it has hosted countlesss events such as the Rugby World Cup, FA Cup, Worthington Cup, Football League Play-offs, RL Challenge Cup final, concerts and of course Six Nations rugby games.

2. Brains Beer

Can't visit the city without trying Brains SA (Skull Attack as it is known by locals). Samuel Arthur Brain started his brewery in 1882 when he bought Old Brewery, which had been founded in 1713. The firm has remained in the family ever since.

3. The Old Brewey Quarter

Brains recently vacated the Old brewery with the site being redeveloped with a number of bars and restaurants. Definitely a place to visit.

4. Caroline Street

Better known as "Chip Alley". recently underwent a £200, 000 facelift.

5. Clarke's Pies

Have been baked in cardiff aince 1920.

6. Cardiff Develis Hockey Team

Go and see a match. Regarded as one of the best teams in the country.

7. Cardiff Rugby Club

Founded in 1876 relocated to Cardiff Arms Park, named after the local Cardiff Arms pub. Situated alongside the Millennium Stadium catch a match with either Cardiff or Cardiff Blues Regional Team.

8. Cardiff City FC

Founded in 1899 as Riverside FC they changed to their current name in 1908. In 1927 they became the onlt team to win the FA Cup and take it out of England.